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| Some chains are made to be broken |
Today, a lot of my various blog posts
are about minding my own business. It's not a bad thing. It's about
empowerment. It's a little about freedom. It's a lot about empowering
and trusting others as well. But, back to that chain.
Since you last heard from me, my last
grand-kid in residence moved out. Breaking the “under my roof”
chain was not an easy choice, but it had to be done. Of course, I
will miss her. Of course, there will be times when I wish she was
back. But the bottom line is, I'm grandma, not mom and kids belong
with their parents.
But wait, there's more.
I'm not just breaking the live in
chain. I'm breaking the responsibility chain. Because not only do
kids belong with their parents, so does the responsibility of raising
them, no matter the circumstance. Barring abuse, neglect and other serious issues, that is.
My grand-kids will always be number one
in my book. Same with my kids, of course. But here I am in my 50's. I
find myself in a spot where my whole life has revolved around them. I
suppose in some ways, that's as it should be.
But what about me? When will I be
number one in my own life? Well, over the last few years, I have
been making gradual changes toward that end. Because, let's face it,
if you don't take care of yourself, what will you have to share or
give to others? Not a darn thing.
I'm no good at selfish. That's not
where I intend to take this. My grand-kids will also still get my advice and undivided attention when they need it.
So will you, by the way. This blog will
now contain some of the best realistic parenting advice you'll ever
get. Not because I'm especially intelligent but because I've been
through a lot of crap and learned from it.
As for my kids and grand-kids, they
will still be welcome and frequent visitors to my house. We'll laugh
and play and go places together. We'll do all the fun things we
always have. I love being a mom and a grandma. It's just that I don't
want to be in that parenting role with them anymore. It's not my job.
The kids are too old and the grand-kids
already have parents for that.
Plus, I've been wrong to take care of
their responsibilities every time they have financial woes or
struggles. It's not good for any of us.
Plus, I really should mind my own
business.
Yes, I admit that I'm a bit
of a know it all. Stop laughing, OK? I'm a huge know it
all. Is that better? The difference is though, that now I'm trying.
I'm really trying to break that chain. I hate when anyone tells me
how to live. It's about time I realized that other people do too.
Meanwhile, you can still look to this
blog for that parenting advice. And maybe a laugh or two along the
way. I am hilarious, after all. You won't be able to help yourself.
Breaking the chain can be fun and I
intend to prove it.
